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([personal profile] aximili July 20th, 2017 20:40)
This one character really hurts my heart in Strain. I mean, I know it's fiction, but he confronts his turned mother. Then he goes to an Indian restaurant where there's this woman he likes. Then her parents and this other character give him a shitty time til he leaves. Then his childhood hero (works in the Indian restaurant) treats him like a shitstain.

Like damn guys, you don't know what he just went through tonight! And all he did was tell your daughter to respect her mother because she'll miss her when she's gone!




I wish I had friends that were more into the outdoors/adventurous stuff. Jessica and Nick are more museum buddies.

I know, I know. I promised I wouldn't complain unless I didn't make friends while doing said things, instead of wishing they'd just like, randomly appear out of the ground.
I'm working on it.

I also have Groupons for dance classes.

Uhm. I decided against the Himalaya trip in October (I'll use the credit to do it at another date.) It's too long a trip given what I'm trying to do this year. I really want to focus on the vocational things - e.g., the CNA course. Some of them have absolutely no leeway for taking up missed classes, so a two-week trip would be a bad idea.

I'll do local things I wanted to do this year, then use the credit to go next year. If I'm really lucky, by then I'll know someone I can invite so I'm not spending extra money to travel solo (though traveling solo sounds fun.)

... I hope I can learn paragliding this year.
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([personal profile] aximili July 20th, 2017 19:17)
So, I signed up for the skydive in Oceanside. I want to try to do a group outing too, but I also decided this year I'm going to stop waiting for people to be available and do things I want to do, when I want to do them.

I'm excited because the last time I went skydiving I didn't video. Paid for it. But they forgot to turn the camera on. (I still got photos, though.)

Also, this time I can wear whatever I want, since I'm not on vacation. At the very least, I can not be wearing black socks on my bare legs.

Anyway, I thought, "I have the whole DAY off tomorrow (and Saturday I work in the afternoon) why don't I try something else as well?"

So... What else is on my list of things I've wanted to do?

I was trying to think about what I... Like I want to do. Really specifically me, nothing to do with what other people want to do.

I think I want to avoid rock-climbing for now. I want to climb, but mostly I want to climb for fitness reasons. I don't feel the urge to scale mountains the way my sister does. That's not my thing.

SCUBA takes too much time. I really want to do it, but I need to plan out trips, take other classes (I want to learn cave/wreck diving.) I'd like to get a case for my phone so I can take photos. (What a day. I don't need a waterproof camera. There are houses for iPhones.)

I want to do bungee jumping, but fitting that all into one weekend might be too difficult and/or expensive. (Also, it's something I'd like to do for the purpose of being certified.)

I'm thinking surfing or wind-surfing. I really want to do both (especially wind-surfing.)

But surfing might be easier because there are local lessons offered. I can't seem to find wind-surfing lessons. Plus, surfing I can do here any time. You have to find places/conditions for wind-surfing.




I'm not going to avoid co-workers, but I am going to do things on my own a while too, meet people in relation to the activity instead of work environment. I think that if I do the things I'm talking about, people will be more likely to take those plans seriously because they'll want to do them. (Well, maybe not for the hiking.)

Since I'm not working Saturday mornings now, I may also start trying to regularly do 5ks. I've really wanted to do that. And now I have Saturday mornings.




Okay so:

1. Surfing tomorrow morning.
2. Skydiving tomorrow afternoon.
3. 5k Saturday morning.
4. Photography Sunday.

BOOM. Plans set. I want to do wind-surfing really badly. But I think I want to learn something I can do just any old day ASAP.
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([personal profile] aximili July 20th, 2017 16:49)
I booked a skydiving trip for tomorrow!!

I'd been waiting to go in Monterey (world's highest tandem dive) but I'll try later in the year.

I'm also thinking about surfing lessons. I'd been wanting to a while. But I have two days off this week.

Then I'm also trying to figure out where I want to take photos this weekend.
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([personal profile] justslayan posting in [community profile] addme July 17th, 2017 12:25)
Location: US
Timezone: EST
Languages: English

Describe yourself in five sentences or less: I'm extremely new to DW but I have been roleplaying for years. This is awkward because I really don't like to talk about myself. I much prefer to immerse myself in whatever I'm writing and keep things mostly IC unless we need to plot. Bandom/celeb RP is my jam and often played Travis McCoy on Livejournal, as well as William Beckett and Justin Bieber. Check out my journal for more info.

Top 5 Fandoms:
2006 Bandom RP Era Music (if that counts as a fandom and yikes that sounds old)
Anime
Harry Potter
True Blood
Tie between Pokemon and Final Fantasy X


I mostly post about: Until I get comfortable here, I may not post about much. I am so used to only using journals IC that I often forget that I can have one for myself.

I rarely post about: Eh I'm an open book once you get to know me OOC. I just prefer to keep posts IC.

My last three posts were about: RP, reconnecting with long lost writing partners, and storylines for my Travie McCoy muse.

How often do you post?: In my personal journal? As needed. If I join a RP community, probably weekly.

How about commenting?: I love commenting and interacting, for sure.
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([personal profile] decemberthirty posting in [community profile] addme July 17th, 2017 10:44)
Hello! Like many people, I'm a longtime Livejournaler who's working on making the switch over to Dreamwidth. But I've had my journal there since 2001--that's pretty much my entire adult life! Change is hard! In order to help me shift my focus over here instead of over there, I'd like to see if I can establish a more active group of DW-friends. Let me tell you a little bit about myself and my journal.

About me:
My name is Katie, I'm 38, I'm queer, and I'm female. I'm a writer and writing tutor by profession (I write fiction and book reviews; I tutor high school students and beginning creative writers). I grew up in the Hudson Valley in New York State, and currently live in Philadelphia. I live in a very old house with my girlfriend of eighteen years and our two cats. I love to read (favorite writers include E.M. Forster, Marilynne Robinson, Virginia Woolf, Pat Barker, Ursula K. Le Guin, George Saunders, etc). I also like cooking, baking, canning, and food preservation of all kinds; hiking and bird watching; gardening; swimming; watching baseball.... I'm a rather typical introvert and lead a fairly quiet life. I drink entirely too much tea.

About my journal:
I began my LJ as a reading journal, and still often post informal book reviews and thoughts on whatever I happen to be reading at the moment. In addition to writing about books, I often post about food and the projects I undertake in the kitchen. Sometimes I use my journal to track goals. Sometimes I write about the things that are going on in my life. Rarely (very rarely) I share my writing. Sometimes I post about art, or the creative process, or a quotation that caught my attention. I tend to post about once or twice a week. There are often photos. I keep my journal friends-only, but if any of this sounds interesting to you I will be happy to add you so you can check it out. No harm done if it turns out to not be your style after all!

What I'm Looking For:
Like I said, I'm transitioning from using LJ as my main online home, and am looking for a more active friends list here on DW. I like genuine connections and interesting conversations. I'd love to meet people who share my interests, especially fellow book-nerds who want to geek out about literature with me. Outdoorsy folks, creative folks, thinkers, makers, teachers, learners.... I can't promise to be the world's greatest commenter and I don't expect you to be either, but I would like to talk to each other at least occasionally.

Say hello! Let's get to know each other!
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([personal profile] aximili July 16th, 2017 10:01)
So because of the Memory Lane trip Guillermo del Toro sent me on, I tried to look up Memo and see if he ended up marrying Andrea, or if they got engaged.

(Memo was always on a deadline to get married by the time he was twenty-eight, so I wanted to see if he was 'on schedule.')

I didn't see anything definitive. I hope they did, but on the other hand, I have a feeling if he got married he would blast wedding photos all over his FaceBook page and it would be in his status and in fact I probably would have somehow heard it even though there's literally no one we have mutual contact with anymore.

I might have to message him about this Guillermo del Toro thing. I don't think that would offend his sensibilities, lol. It's been a long time, but we never technically ended on bad terms. I just was honest and said hey, I don't think I can be friends with you right now.
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([personal profile] aximili July 16th, 2017 00:07)
Today was mostly good. Slept in late, went to work, and work was pretty good because I've been using listening/communicating techniques to have better conversations with customers.

Typically, I'm very introverted and I'd much sooner sit in my room all day reading, writing, sketching than interacting with people. I'm trying to force myself to expand, but then, I've tried for years. I want to make connections with people, and I'm not good at it. And you really see that when I am dealing with customers because unless there is a mutual interest to engage in (e.g. A customer wearing a "Hey Arnold!" shirt) there's no communication, or it's really one-way (with me being the speaker. In this case, they've triggered an obsessive-interest topic, in which I start talking like an encyclopedia.)

It's not 100%. I'm trying to practice skills I'm reading about, but there are still some customers I really struggle to engage with, or I struggle because I'm stuck in my thoughts and can't seem to get out (being present is an issue I have a hard time with.)

But today a customer came through using EBT and they were wearing a lot of fancy clothes and accessories. I didn't notice, because I don't tend to care about that stuff.

The customer after them comes up and complains about people on food stamps spending money on designer clothes.

So, instead of arguing or refuting their point:

"I get that. It seems insensible to spend extra money on fancy things. I can see more than one side to it, though, because I've read studies that show prospective employers favor employees that are dressed in higher-end clothes, and if they notice they are driving nicer cars."

And this customer was like, "Hmm, you know, you're right!" Turned out she was a recruiter so she actually knew of and employed this type of knowledge in her line of work. And we started having this really fascinating conversation about her work. It was completely fascinating!

WOW.

Maybe someday I can do that with MOST of my customers!

I mean, I would rather work as a nurse or a counselor or social worker. Something where I'm helping people. But the same applies there. I want to learn how to connect with people better. I like watching people really into a topic. I like seeing people happy. It was nice to have triggered (positively) another person into a really engaging conversation in which they were an equal or even primary participant.

I don't know how much or how fast I can learn this stuff, but I can see it doing me good. It can also help me with being present. I really struggle with daydreaming or getting stuck in my thoughts. It's not that I don't care about people. It's just like... No matter how I try, I'll get stuck in something.




I did try to busy-body into another co-worker's business, though. I realized I was going to do that and was going to try to back out, but then she was off the clock.

See, this employee is an ~18 year old who is planning on leaving this store to work at a clothes retailer, because she wants to make more money. So I told her I wouldn't do that and she asked if I really hated working clothes store retailers.

So I explained that the reason I was saying that was because:

1. Clothes retailers, bookstores, department stores, etc. tend to give hours much more seasonally. If you're getting paid 11/hour but making 40-48 hours a week, you'll make more money than 13/hour but 4-40 hours a week pending on the time of year. You get much more regular hours in grocers, so you end up making more money.

2. Union grocery stores promote from within, fast, and you learn more specialized tasks much faster, so you're likely to get more experience than just 'cashier' which will look better on a resume.

Then I said I wasn't saying specifically to stay at the grocery store, just that, if I had done things over from high school, I would have avoided retail altogether in favor of trying to develop vocational skills through ROP and other resources, and if I ended up in retail, I'd have preferred a grocery store.

Turns out, she's already done ROP courses, but she can't find a job relating to her ROP course. But her main reason is because it pays more hourly and it's the job all her friends work at.

I was going to tell her she should do it if she really thinks it will make her happy, but she also might want to look into other vocational studies where she'd be making more than that job and/or getting similarly relevant work experience.

But it got busy, so she went away.

I sort of hope she thinks about the vocational aspect though. I know it's tempting to work for a higher hourly wage or to work with friends. But long-term it means so much more to have meaningful, relevant work experience. I feel like retail - especially non-grocer retail - really put me into a dead-end in life for a very long time where prospective employers didn't see marketable job skills, relevant work experience, and saw that 'part-time' part of my work history and did not want to employ me at full-time. In fact, a lot of them seemed to think I must want seasonal work. And it's hard to explain that in such a condensed timeframe.




A co-worker tried to come through my line and buy alcohol for another (underage) co-worker. (They were not being stealthy. They were literally shopping together right until check-out.)

To which I said, "I can't sell you alcohol because I know you're going to drink with someone underage."

So they went to go buy alcohol from another store.

It's funny because the underage coworker talks about their work ethic and professionalism, but if that were so, why would they risk two other co-workers' jobs for alcohol? Not to mention a possible $100,000 fine and up to six months' jail time.

Like I say to anyone else I don't sell alcohol to: "I don't know you well enough to do six months in the pokey for you."

Not my business, I guess. Unless it's me you're trying to get alcohol from. Then it's my business.




I was thinking about inviting Patrick out to hike again tomorrow - I could get up early enough to do so. But I'll try inviting him next week, because I believe I get out of work earlier and will have more time to sleep. But I want to try hiking with my camera equipment a bit so next time we go hiking I'm not slowing him down.

Next week my schedule officially changes at First Job. So there won't be any more conflicts with Full-Time job. But I'm struggling:

1. I have a lot of responsibilities at First Job. I'm trained in a cyclically very under-staffed department (and more specifically, I am sufficiently trained to manage it if the management cannot.) I'm not supposed to be scheduled there anymore, but I end up there a lot due to said understaffing. I'm also trained as a back-up bookkeeper, though I am currently not allowed to bookkeep except in extenuating circumstances because it's seen as a conflict of interest to book keep when you're on register.

Then on top of that, they've put me in charge of safety. Now, 'being in charge of safety' is supposed to mean that I hand the paperwork out to department heads and they do their work, I fill things out on the safety website, I print the minutes and lead the safety part of the meeting.

Instead it means "I do all the safety work." According to the assistant manager.

That's a futile job. One person can't make over a hundred people safe. They all have to be participating. It basically sounds like there is no safety culture, there's not gonna be a safety culture, so just do it.

I'm going to try to simplify it, organize it, make a system and try to bring in more people to participate. I made a system for transferring merchandise in Starbucks. I can make a system for people in the rest of the store that's simple and, hopefully, rewarding. Hopefully if I can do that, I can make the safety culture people are so resistant to and do less work. Ideally the program wouldn't exist anymore because everyone would be watching everyone else's backs.

2. I love the work at Full-Time job (I'm hoping to develop skills so maybe someday I can be involved more on the other side of things or feel more competent/confident during day work.) However, the rules are changing up from when I was hired.

This may be good. Maybe it will mean more work that is geared toward our professional development. I don't know yet because we don't have the new task list. The work we've been given to date is mostly custodial, but that it's less than half the picture if I understand correctly.

So it may be really good. I'm trying to remain positive and assume it won't all be custodial. I don't have a problem doing custodial work, if I feel the work will also lead to professional development. I told them I think we could probably clean the common/public areas each night and then focus on 2-4 additional rooms each night.

If it's all custodial, then that will be really great for a student just making their way, but probably not so much for me who has been hoping to get units, volunteer work, supervised and clinical hours.

But until I know, I'm just jumping to conclusions and guessing. It's really hard for me not to do that. Also, I feel like a lot of my ideas get shut down really quickly. Granted, not by supervisors, but by immediate co-workers I rub elbows with.

For instance, I threw out a suggestion that maybe we get more supplies so that the work can be divided among 3-4 staff in the morning instead of just being the burden of one staff, and someone told me if I suggested it, I would be in trouble for over-stepping.

I suggested making a checklist we sign off on tasks, so that 1. We knew more explicitly what was supposed to be done and 2. We'd know if it was done already and 3. Who had done it. I was told that was a bad idea and people would hate it.

I was also working (in conjunction to being told to do custodial work) a room check-off list. In the form a person would write the room that was being detail-cleaned, and check off things inspected. (Windows. Locks. Doors. Outlets. Etc.)

No one explicitly shot that down. But no one said anything positive about it. It was like I'd never suggested it at all. Which might be good, because it might mean I'm seriously overestimating how much of the work they want to give us is custodial versus career-centered. Maybe they were like, "What? This is all housework. Doesn't she know about all this administrative stuff she's supposed to be doing?"

Though I suppose it might also mean that they saw my suggestion of cleaning the common areas and then additionally cleaning 2-4 rooms a night and thought that wasn't enough. But until I hear a response and see an updated list, I'm just guessing with no real idea of what is coming my way. Which is pointless.
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([personal profile] bonesofbirdwings posting in [community profile] addme July 15th, 2017 17:58)
  Name: Bones
Age: 21 (almost 22)
Location: Boston, MA
Gender: Female
Languages: English and a little Spanish

Describe yourself in five sentences or less: I'm fairly new here, but not new to fandom. I write fanfiction and I fandom-hop without rhyme or reason. I'm currently in a lot of small fandoms, and I love to add more, so feel free to try to get me obsessed with your favorite fandom. IRL, I'm a sleep scientist who doesn't sleep enough. I talk about my girlfriend a lot.

Top 5 Fandoms: 
I'm going to cheat, but in my defense, I am in so many fandoms...
Small video game fandoms (Oxenfree, Stardew Valley, and Primordia)
Boku No Hero Academia
The Goblin Emperor
Harry Potter (always... never hop away from this one)
Haikyuu!!


I mostly post about: Fanfiction, logic puzzles, fandom things. I'll probably start posting about my life at some point, but those won't be public

I rarely post about: politics, specifics about my work.

My last three posts were about: A logic puzzle and some fanfiction exchange/challenge stuff.

How often do you post?: Not much right now - I'm new here. But I imagine I'll be posting at least once every week, if not more.

How about commenting?: I'm good about commenting when I'm feeling social, but sometimes I don't have the energy. I like making friends and being friendly though, so I try. 
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([personal profile] aximili July 14th, 2017 22:02)
My brother introduced me to The Strain, an FX show. I'm going to avoid binge-watching it. But what I found interesting about it is that it's actually a show we both love, which is an unusual phenomenon. It was created by Guillermo del Toro, which is probably why.

Guillermo del Toro really makes me think of Memo. I think that was one of his biggest role models. But I like it regardless. Just, it has that little extra bit.

Last week I finally bought eczema lotion for my hands. They're not fully back to normal, but they're distinctively less lizard-looking. I have to be really on top of it though. This weather really brings it out.

Tomorrow I'm going to try an Al-Anon group. I'm not really sure what will become of it. I mean, yes, I live with an alcoholic, drug addicted person with a mood and personality disorder (who is in a mutually codependent relationship with another drug addict.)

I live with a person trying to protect, control, and change said person who has become codependent (if he wasn't already. I think he's been that way for as long as I can remember.)

And I've realized this is messing me up.

I know I need to get out, but it's not as easy as 1-2-3. There's the lease (through March). That's my deadline for getting some entry vocational skills and unloading any previous debt. I don't need to be making enough money to live 100% on my own without roommates next year. I just need to be on a career track.
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([personal profile] reijamira posting in [community profile] addme July 9th, 2017 01:27)
Name: reijamira (rei is also okay)
Age: 31 (but the 32 is close)
Country: Germany
Subscription/Access Policy: Friend away, really! I always welcome new friends! My journal is semi-friends only. But I only lock my rare rl posts. It would be great if we have a few things in common, though. :) Oh, and you must be at least 18.

Top 5 Main Fandoms: Supernatural, Harry Potter, Star Trek AOS, Gundam Wing, The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim
Other Fandoms: Lots. Some of them are: Almost Human, Bates Motel, Bleach, Edge of Tomorrow, Hannibal, Star Wars
Fannish Interests: I read fic, I write recs, I comment, I squee, and I fangirl. I plan to write more meta and reviews in the future. A long time ago I used to make icons.
OTPs and Ships: Oh god, please, don't force me to write them all down here. :D I'm a hopeless multishipper with countless of ships and OTP's. Let me direct you to a list. I give you the ships for the fandoms I've mentioned above. Get ready, long list ahead!

Supernatural – Sam/Dean | Sam/Castiel | Sam/Gabriel | John/Sam
Harry Potter – Harry/Draco | Snape/Harry
Star Trek AOS – Kirk/McCoy | Kirk/Spock | McCoy/Spock | Pike/Kirk | Pike/Kirk/McCoy | Spock/Kirk/McCoy
Gundam Wing – Duo/Heero | Duo/Wufei | Duo/Trowa | Duo/Zechs
The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim – Female Dragonborn/Farkas | Male Dragonborn/Farkas | Farkas/Vilkas | Female Dragonborn/Vilkas | Male Dragonborn/Vilkas | Female Dragonborn/Brynjolf
Almost Human – John/Dorian
Bates Motel – Alex/Norma | Dylan/Emma | Dylan/Norman | Alex/Dylan | Remo/Dylan
Bleach – Grimmjow/Ichigo | Ulquiorra/Grimmjow | Ichigo/Renji
Edge of Tomorrow – William „Bill“ Cage/Rita Vrataski
Hannibal – Hannibal/Will
Star Wars – Qui-Gon/Obi-Wan | Obi-Wan/Anakin

Favourite Movies: Oh, way too many. Among them are: The Alien franchise, The Terminator franchise, Dredd (2012), The Star Trek reboot franchise, Blood Sport (1988), Sense and Sensibility (1995), The Matrix (1999), No Retreat, No Surrender (1986), Avatar (2009), Gladiator (2000), 96 Hours (2008), The Hobbit film series, American History X (1998), Signs (2002), Highlander (1986), Coming to America (1988)

TV Shows: Some I really love are: Supernatural, Bates Motel, Grimm, Almost Human, Breaking Bad, Better Call Saul, American Horror Story, Orange Is the New Black, Preacher, Bosch, Smallville, Roswell, True Blood, X-Files, Farscape, Jessica Jones, Luke Cage, Game of Thrones, Queer as Folk (US), Hannibal

Books: "Harry Potter", "Ravished" by Amanda Quick. "Silver Lining" and "The Promise of Jenny Jones" by Maggie Osborne. I absolutely love historical romance novels so everything by Elizabeth Hoyt and Lisa Kleypas is an autobuy for me. "The Green Mile" by Stephen King. Generally most of the books by Joy Fielding and Mary Higgins Clark.

Music: I love music and I listen to almost every genre. Classical, rock, metal, ambient, alternative, music of all eras (especially 80s/90s. Those funny disco songs always crack me up lol), blues, even country, German Schlager, eurodance. I know no shame when it comes to music.

Games: The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim (It's my second life.), Alien: Isolation, Anno 1404 & 1503, BioShock, Dragon Age: Origins, Far Cry, Left 4 Dead etc.

Comics/Anime/Misc: Dragonball Z, Gundam Wing, Bleach, Death Note, Ranma ½, Inu Yasha,
Cowboy Bebop, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Banana Fish, Bronze/Zetsuai, Angel Sanctuary, Skip Beat and a lot more.

Other Info: I was sorted into Slytherin. The hat let me decide between that and Hufflepuff, so I told him that I liked green better. :D I'm an ISFJ. I love nature and animals. Long walks in the nature make me feel all happy and content. I could watch grazing horses or cows forever. I have four cats and wish I had a dog again. I have a sweet tooth. I love bodyweight excercises. I like to laugh until I cry and my belly starts to hurt.

My journal is 90% fannish stuff. You've probably noticed that I'm a slash fan. I also have a couple of incestuous ships. Just saying in case you didn't know and react shocked. I don't hate on ships.

I'm looking for other like-minded (fannish) people with whom I can squee and, if the occasion arises, have insightful discussions with. LJ was my main residence since 2006. But with the rescent ToS fiasco I don't feel at home there anymore. So I've decided to move into my DW and make myself comfy here. All that is missing is you. So, let's be friends! :)

I love reaction gifs, so I wrap this up with one, just because.



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